Today both boys had an appointment with the child psychologist.
She asked me what we should be working on today, and I reminded her of the current issues. I asked my middle child what he should be working on, in case I missed something, and he said he is about ready to graduate. Not the answer I expected.
After session, she told me she thought he might be ready to cease his sessions with her. She told me she remembers how they were when they first started with her, middle son at two years ago and oldest child at a year ago.
She said they were bouncing off of things. Had no focus. Became upset every minute. Did not share. Argued with everyone and each other.
Middle child did not talk about his father and did not want to discuss his feelings AT ALL for a year.
I was surprised she felt he might be done with therapy. He is doing remarkably well right now, true, but I just did not know if it were due to his medication or due to his emotional growth.
She walked us to the door and turned to me and looked me in the eyes and said “good job”.
Last week a social worker visited us in our home and attributed my kid’s good behaviour to good parenting.
After years of criticisms from their father, my father, the shelter staff- I can scarcely believe it.
I hope the children do. They worked really hard to get here.