The psychologist has seen middle child twice since he regressed. The dose has been doubled, he is tired, and she says she cannot see any difference between his behaviour today, last week, and while unmedicated. The cause of this, however, in her opinion, is more ominous than what I thought it to be. I had assumed it was an acclimation to the medication, but his doctor believes it to be triggers. We have had some anniversaries lately, and she believes there is another cause, as well. My son does not like to talk about what upsets him, and I do not blame him. So I have started tapping the sides of his knees when he is upset, and next session with her we will try EMDR, in my presence, since he will still not allow her to do it with him, and he no longer allows her to tap him, either.
The only thing I can think it to be is that his friend at daycare has either stopped going, or has rejected him. I want him to tell me himself, as he is upset by suggestions. I am patient. I am deflecting all his attempts to fight with me (it took a half hour to get him to drop the issue of not eating donuts before dinner), I refuse to be his instrument of punishment, I will not contribute to his pain, nor give it flesh. His harsh words and his temper fits are met with humor, consequences if necessary, and set discussion times if I cannot avoid it. I am going to read him books about sharing secrets, being upset, friendships, and see if I get any insight this week.